I have a really bad habit of hanging on to things long after I should have let them go. Not by anyone else’s standards, but from my own point of view, since I would know better than anyone else when it is time for me personally to let go of something. Anyway, I did a dumb thing the other night: I went looking somewhere I had not looked in over a year to see if the dust really had settled. I should have stayed away.
Anyway, I did a dumb thing the other night: I went looking somewhere I had not looked in over a year to see if the dust really had settled. I should have stayed away.
On the other hand, I got another pretty clear message from the universe, or God, or who/whatever, that I was right about that person, to begin with, and that I should probably stop worrying about it and feeling guilty about my part in things. My philosophy is that a lot of so-called sins are easy to fall into through lack of boundary-setting, and so one’s participation in them is sometimes passive.
For instance, an opportunity to commit adultery might more or less fall into one’s lap. But thieving is always an active sin, as in the thief must make an active choice to steal and then seek out the coveted item(s). As such I hold thieving to be a more serious sin than most others a person could commit. (I’m not letting passive sinners off the hook, just paying them a little slack because people don’t always actively seek out wrongdoing, and setting boundaries and defending them is not the easiest thing for some people to do.)
I look back on the past 2 months of my life, and I really don’t even know how to go about putting together a coherent post about what I really want to say. It all started with a self-imposed social media hiatus. I was thinking about Fitness Evolution and the consequences for me…
This was a long time coming, as I had been using blogging, twitter, and everything in between to fuel some really poor habits. See also this video about the signs that you could be overtraining:
I think maybe more than a few people can relate to this, so I will put it bluntly, and I will put it honestly. There is so much more to life than trying to be the fittest person on the planet.
Over the past few years, I watched myself transform from a severely overweight girl who was depressed, lacked the confidence to thrive, and had a horribly fucked up relationship with food too… A thin, more muscular, depressed girl who lacked the confidence to thrive and had a seriously fucked up relationship with food and working out.
It’s been already over two years since the elections were over. All the acrimony and name-calling and attack ads–some projected six billion dollars worth–are silent, more or less, but with Trump, however, it all seems to go on forever. Trump, the male beast. What do you need to know to understand this type of men? Maybe this Doctor Love’s Video helps…
It’s done, right? No. It will continue–apparently by those who know no other way–beginning with the deadline for scheduled tax increases/automatic spending cuts. I once participated that way, but there has been a shift within me while writing So Dad, What Makes a Man.
It ended last year, with an episode of fainting in February that doctors said was not life-threatening. But they couldn’t explain it. Dizzy spells visited me almost monthly for four months and showed me, explicitly, that I am not in control of my life.
You are probably aware of the “keep it simple crowd” that roams the internet. People like me who reasonably consider that many of the applications we use are far too complicated for our needs. See also this video about AbiWord:
And yes, too much complication slows you; it’s distracting. Most word processors, for example, how features that go unused even for the corporate user. And that is even truer for the home user. What should we do?
An easy solution has been simpler programs such as Abiword or Open office. They run quite well, open source, I find them crashing less often than many “professional” applications, they are easy to learn and they get the job done.
A more extreme solution is working with programs such as java darkroom, in which you can see nothing but a blank screen and a cursor with which to type. A keystroke combination will let you save and run some basic tools (spell checker, word count, that kind of stuff), or save as plain text.
Rejection. Failure. Losing. Nobody strives for this. There’s not one athlete that’s setting out to lose, there’s no entrepreneur whose goal it is to go bankrupt. But like some act of heavenly mercy, there is a lot of positives found in negatives, and successful people actually often are preaching the Gospel that value is to be found in failure. But let’s look at some tiny blessings that come hidden in rejection…
Denis Waitley expressed this so well. He said: ‘Failure is supposed to be our teacher and in no way our undertaker. Failure is merely delay; in no way defeat. Failure is a short detour, in no way a dead end street. Failure is a phenomenon that can only be avoided if we say nothing, do nothing and are nothing.’
Successful persons’ marks lie in how they respond to negative situations. They are licking their wounds yet don’t quit the battlefield. They will find strength through their scars. Check out the following six blessings to soften and deal with failure, losing, and rejection.
You can clarify all your passions
A lot of people are struggling with making decisions. People creative minds usually are having their hand in multiple projects, but even jacks-of-all-trades understand that there are limits as to how thin you’ll be able to spread yourself.
In the past, I’ve caused some serious grief by applying labels to myself or others when I’ve been afraid or too lazy to go deep and really experience the moment. So now, when an especially challenging moment presents itself, I am consciously taking myself off autopilot… instead of acting or reacting or avoiding, I’m simply trying to BE. I’m resisting the urge to put a nice neat label on myself, others or even something as simple as an apple… or as complicated as love. But you know how it is, People put People in Boxes – Myself, Labeled Again!
I read an interesting idea that labeling only serves us as far as understanding the labeled person or thing in the simplest context. Once the label becomes ingrained, our mind closes and we lose our connection with whatever it is we’re labeling. And for me it’s the connection with myself, others and even objects that make life exciting, rewarding, worth the while…
But at the beginning of something, labels can come in really handy. For instance, I had this neighbor who was mad-scientist smart and as wired as the day is long. It was painfully obvious to everyone in the neighborhood that he had extreme ADHD. The strange part about it was, this never occurred to HIM. I was talking with him at a party once and he told he had been diagnosed ADHD – he was so excited because this discovery solved a mystery and gave him a deeper understanding and acceptance of who he is.
On December 4, I began the “101 things in 1001 days” challenge – so far so good although I just remember I skipped breakfast and that’s one of my things not to do… I’m just gonna pick a few out and say why I’m doing them, and hopefully, you can share some of your “things”.
Do more volunteer work– Right now I am involved in helping people prepare for the GED test, I do chat with them and answer emails once a week when they have questions about their educational challenges. But I want to do more, I would like to increase my work with BestGEDClasses.org and be active at least 3-4 times a week.
Spend 3 hours a day with my mom for 365 days (0/365) – I live with my parents so seeing my mom isn’t a problem, spending time with her is. Sometimes I forget that my dad works nights and isn’t downstairs keeping her company, so while I sit up here procrastinating to the best of my ability, she’s downstairs on her own.
Long ago, before your grandparents were in this world, there was a young girl. Nara was her name. She lived near a very high mountain. Every day, at sunrise, she greeted the mountain like this:
“Good morning, dear mountain, I wish you happiness. I will climb you tomorrow.”
But she had barely finished these words when a crow perched by her window, and in a trollish voice, told her: “You can’t climb it. You are a very small child and that is a giant mountain.” So read on to learn about Climbing a Mountain – You can’t!
Always, at that time, Nara became sad. She believed she would not be able to conquer it, now, nor ever. But one day many smiling clouds arrived at her village. They covered all the sky, and the mountain top too. That way, the mountain looked smaller. That day Nara did not say: “I will climb you tomorrow” but “I will climb today.”
When the crow arrived at the window it did not find her because she was taking breakfast in the kitchen. It went there but she had gone to her room. It flew to her room, but the girl, after having put on her coat, her red woolen hat and her rainbow boots, had left the house. When it found Nara, she was already climbing the mountain. “Hello, crow,” was Nara’s greeting. “Hello, girl, what are you doing?”, replied the crow. “Going up, to the top.” “But you can’t reach the top, it’s a very high mountain.”
Hi, I did it again. Another huge project, not that huge at the Unhomeless script and also nothing compared to Newsies songs, but certainly a demanding one. And, for a change, I’m not setting up any deadline for this project, only that I want it available to the public by Christmas.
So what’s this project about? A traditional, pen-and-paper, roleplaying game with influences and inspiration from Horatio Alger, Dickens, Victor Hugo, Jules Verne and Mark Twain. You know, in a roleplaying game you pretend to be someone else, usually fighters, wizards, clerics, and thieves. Only in this game, you could be a newsboy or newsgirl from 1890 to 1910, living on your own in the fictional city of New Paris, USA. Continue reading Newsies Songs – a roleplaying game
It’s 7:30 PM. You are working on some stuff due tomorrow, 9:00 AM, and you have enough time to make it. But then a red light pops up in your mind. Yes, that other task you chose to procrastinate and had forgotten… guess when they want it done? I don’t mean coming up with the Under Pressure Lyrics? That’s how you fix it.
I know I sound like a mother, teacher, and boss, but it happens to be true: you must avoid procrastination. Had you done it when you had the time too, now you would not be facing this crisis. Some people may say that they love to work under pressure; I’d say that many of those only work when pressured enough.
Do you love tight deadlines? Good, just do stuff as soon as possible and try to beat your record every time. That’s all the pressure you’ll ever need or want.